July 19, 2010 - San Francisco Relationships
They are called “San Francisco Relationships” – a term coined by the local gay community to define two men in a long-term open relationship, with lovers on the side. The Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality at San Francisco State University has recently completed a major study of the relationship patterns of gay men in committed relationships. Their findings reveal much about the reality of homosexual relationships in the Bay Area.
In summary, most men who consider themselves in committed relationships aren’t really very committed at all. In the study, 47% of the couples reported being in open relationships with another 8% not sure how to define their relationships. Okay. So that means more than half of men in so-called committed gay relationships are having sexual relationships with other men at the same time. And, believe it or not, at least half of the men in the study were married, having tied the knot during one of the times it was legal to do so in California. One person said, “It’s a redefinition of marriage. The emotional commitment, the closeness, all of it is there.”
Riiight. You can now have all the sex you want with whoever you want and the “closeness and commitment” in a so-called marriage are strengthened. That is a new one on me! Sometimes the claims by the re-definition of marriage crowd are beyond absurd.
The original purpose of this study was to discover reasons why the HIV rate is again on the increase among gay men. Well, the reason seems fairly obvious. HIV-positive men and/or women are having sexual relationships with other men and/or women and the disease is passed along. The National Institute of Health has just awarded an additional $3.5 million to continue the study for five more years. Save the money! The problem, its causes, and the solutions will be the same in five years.
We live in sad times. Anyone who calls for moral purity is considered an intolerant, puritanical legalist. The destruction of individuals, and the collective degrading of our culture, is painful to watch. Society shows no signs of changing for the better. You can make a personal choice, however, to honor God’s standards and enjoy the benefits. May God help us!
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